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In a relationship, often there are feelings hurt. Why is this? One of the reasons is that there are expectations for the other to fulfill their needs. When this happens, suddenly a partner becomes dependent on the other, when before they functioned just fine. When their expectations are not met, it is taken personally and their feelings get hurt.
So why do people change when they enter a relationship?
Especially in a friendship when both partners related with each other very well, but the expectations rose. I’ve come to the realization that entering a relationship often changes a person’s mental state. They expect of themselves to be different. To act kinder, do more favors, work harder, or just be someone they’re not. It becomes such a heavy burden to carry that it often causes friction in the relationship that eventually leads to the demise of the relationship.
A potential partner will not/cannot/or should not rescue you.
Another one of the greater culprits is the high expectations of waiting for some person to rescue them. The relationship is doomed before it even starts. We can only rescue ourselves. Expecting someone to live your life can be too much for a person to handle. True love, is what carries a relationship, and mutual love between 2 people gives fulfillment for both sides, rather than one person carrying all of the weight. One should never place that amount of pressure onto their partner. It also gives one’s own power away, when a partner believes that the other can save them. A true relationship is saving yourself and bringing the best of you to the relationship.
Know your reasons why you’re entering a relationship. Are you starting a relationship for the wrong reasons, such as co-dependency or insecurities? Often there is a conflict in beliefs, where one believes they don’t need anyone, but yet another part has this yearning to experience some a sort of fairy tale romance. The truth is relationships take work and true love.
There is no perfect partner.
Placing high expectations on your partner places a great burden to live up to. They have big shoes to fill, that make it extremely difficult to ever meet. We must be realistic. We must see that we’re all human. We all make mistakes. We all have flaws. We weren’t taught the same values and beliefs on how a relationship should be, so a relationship is also a learning experiences, for both partners may I add.
To have a relationship is truly a gift and something we should honor. We shall persist on treating our partners with love and respect. Expecting them to meet your needs is not relating, nor is it love.
Can you be your partner’s best friend?
Try first being friends with your potential mate. We must keep in mind that we are 2 different people that function perfectly fine independently. Working and sharing together can create a beautiful bond. When 2 relate to each other, there is more love for one another. No longer expectation but love and respect.
Friends can be friends and the expectations are minimal. With a relationship, comes expectations. How does one view a relationship? If it comes with expectations, then there is no relationship.
In my opinion, being with someone in a relationship should be relating with how the other person is and accepting them for who they are and not just putting up with them because you don’t understand them or because they don’t fulfill your needs.
Some people in life we will never be able to understand, but we do have a choice to accept who they are, even if it means parting ways. Know the state of your relationship. Both of you could just be better off as friends. Sometimes we prolong the inevitable due to our own personal insecurities. Be the most genuine person and strive to be the best that you have to offer.
Relationships are not the source of your happiness.
Waiting around for someone else to make you happy is one of best ways of make yourself miserable. Make yourself happy!!
Be happy now, by being grateful for your blessings, going out and having fun if you prefer, giving others something to smile about and making yourself happy in the process. Walk away from people or environments that make you miserable. Find a purpose and start living it. If you’re looking to a relationship for the source of your happiness, you might be heading towards trouble.
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Whenever you are making a decision it is vital to be clear on your intentions. Do not enter a decision on uncertainty or mixed feelings unsure of what to do or how you feel about it. If it’s just a desire but not a true passion, often you’ll find that it’s not strong enough to become manifested into your reality. What ends up being created is the mixed feelings that you have towards it. If you announce your intentions to the universe make it clear and concise. Mixed feelings create mixed results. Follow the next step by taking inspired action. Build upon your actions and everything will start to fall into place.
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How does one achieve something that seems so out of reach?
Simple, here are 13 keys to achievement.
Wouldn’t life be SO much easier if you had a stop button to STOP negative things from impacting your life?
Life would totally be different – wouldn’t it?
A conversation turn bad – press the STOP button and you’re back to your positive state. A pile of bills reminding you of what you don’t have – press the STOP button. Getting turned down for a job – press the STOP button. No more money in your account – press the STOP button.
“Sometimes all you can do is not think, not wonder, not imagine, not obsess. Just breathe, and have faith that everything will work out for the best.” Unknown
Periodically a person will have positive and negative thoughts. Your experience comes from what dominates your mind the most. What dominates your mind may not always be your conscious choice but your subconscious that has been programmed through years of established beliefs, that you’ve created, on your own.
There are moments that make us become bitter, loved, hurt, happy, traumatized, and at peace. When we take the driver’s seat of how we’re thinking, we steer in the direction of our choice. Is it going to be easy to shift these thoughts to more positive? It’s your choice really. Do you care to stay in idle and allow the pattern of negative thought to rule your mind and consequently ruining your life experience? Sometimes it takes that extra conscious effort to snap out of that pattern, but It’s well worth it, if you care to turn your life around.
Try clearing your mind through breathing exercises, meditation, walks in nature, laughing, or surrounding yourself around positive and loving influences.
State of Mind = State of Peace
There are 2 parts to finding your peace:
Peace Be With You,
Worry is an unconscious conditioned response. It’s been passed down to us from society and our upbringing. Intentional? I wouldn’t like to think so. So what is it’s purpose? To create what could go wrong? But even the word “wrong” is wrong.
Why do I say this? Because even something that goes “wrong” has happened from the result of focused directed energy that made it happen. Like the focus of a fear. The more thought put into of being afraid, the more powerful the fear becomes. Where the energy is contributed, becomes the manifestation. All things that have occurred have been built by the consciousness from every human being.
There is power in your thoughts and passions. Direct your focus on matters of higher importance that help expand, grow, and evolve the loving goodness of your very own human nature. Why should we? Because it is in our nature. We gravitate towards the light. The place of our birth. Where we opened our eyes for the first time. Where we gained consciousness. It’s a journey, longing to be home again. Why have we taken this journey? Because it is a gift to experience. It’s a sort of amnesia that allows us to start out on our own. With the choice to experience the contrasting perspective.
Take every life experience as an opportunity to grow.
Glad to grow along with you,
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The entertaining frog can perform the greatest ensembles when nobody is looking but when put on stage it loses its ability.
Anyone can do this. The talent you already possess within, so please do not doubt yourself. It’s all mental. As we become more comfortable in our own skin, being yourself becomes true nature.
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Does true love really exist?
How does one define this true love? Well if I compare it to what is written in romance novels I might become skeptical.
When a relationship falls apart, it’s not the end of the world. Somewhere out there IS someone better for you that matches you perfectly but don’t get caught up in dreaming about it so much.